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Moving on

Posted 09-13-2008 at 06:17 PM by UDPride
With the passing of my mother last Sunday, Im beginning to piece together the future, both immediate and long-term. I need to make changes. Significant ones. I put them off because I didnt want to produce more anxiety in the household while my mother was sick. It wasnt the right time to take some chances and I preferred to keep a reliable income in case my mother needed financial help.

For several years I have been unhappy with my job. Ive worked for my father for 11 years and its been very trying. We spend far too much time together without any alone time. We push each others buttons. And I do not enjoy the workload nor the work itself.

For 15yrs Ive been battling cancer with my mother and Im flat out of gas. And its not something two weeks vacation is ever going to solve. I need 6 months or a year to really step away from everything and rediscover the zest for life. I need time to myself without the anxiety of customers and phone calls to grieve on my own time. I need time to take care of many things that must now be done at home with the death of my mother. And I need time to find a new career. Biut most important, I just need time to enjoy life again by doing things I enjoy. I have enough money to take it easy for a few months and theres no better time than now.

One of the things I do on the side of run a sports site for Univ. Dayton sports and I can continue to do that during my time off without much trouble. But Im also working on another rather large project thats still in the development stage that could end up being one of the most gratifying jobs ever. And it may involve some of you. Thats about all I can say right now but its a project thats been in the skunkworks for nearly a year now. I just pray it has some legs to it and I can do something I love, make money doing it, and have the kind of flexible/free time to start enjoying life again. Im just tired of working to live. Theres no more depressing place to be in than to get up every morning dreading to go to work. I dont want to do that for another 11 years.

I just hope my father understands where I am and allows me to step away from the company and start a new chapter without it sounding like I am abandoning the ship. I lived at home during my mothers cancer and I was glad to do it. You only get one mother, but will my father now hold that hostage against me?

I just dont think I have 60 days left in me at the company. I am so fried and burnt out and exhausted and depressed and void of enthusiasm that it has affected my health.
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It sounds like you are on the right track. I stepped away from the family business over 30 years ago. I would be a wealthy man if I hadn't but have never regretted it once. I followed my own instincts rather than take the well paved road. He passed away this year but near the end he let me know how he proud he was of me for making the break and finding my own niche. Your Father will get over your moving on but he still needs your love especially now with the loss of your Mother. Trust me he will respect you for the choice you have made. Good luck on your future ventures!
Posted 09-13-2008 at 11:34 PM by 2Tight 2Tight is offline
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